Think of your marriage as a 401K program; if you don’t invest along the way, when you get older, you’ll wish you had.  Like a 401K, you don’t have to make big investments, but lots of small deposits over the years add up in a good way.

I know what you are thinking, “I don’t have time for that!”  I’m going to push back and say, “Yes you do! You need to make time!”

Here are my tips on dating your husband:

  • Going on a date that is not a “normal” date is fun. It gets you out of the regular routine of going to dinner and seeing a movie. Choosing a different activity can be a conversation starter itself. For instance: Take a bike ride on your city’s beltway. It’s fun, it’s free, you get exercise, and after the bike ride you will have lots to talk about. (i.e., the scenery, different things you saw on the ride, where to go eat next, how much your butt hurts!)
  • Before your date, write down questions that are conversation starters:
    • What are your goals in 1, 5, 10 years?
    • If you had $20,000 to spend on the house, what would you do and why?
    • If you could buy one thing for me, what would you buy and why?
    • What are you learning in your spiritual walk right now? Are you in a growth stage or are things dry? How can I pray for you?
    • Let’s plan our next big anniversary trip together, where do we want to go?
    • Talk to me about your career. Are you happy? What are your dreams concerning your work?
  • Read the book 5 Love Languages, decide what each other’s love language is, and then start speaking that language. Discover your different personalities and what is important for each other.

Moms, I hope you will go on a date this week with your husband! Get a sitter, and go have some fun. Try not to talk about the kids. Remember you are investing in the future—your future together!

Year End Giving 2017

Year End Giving 2017

Moms write and tell me that they are better moms and have become better wives because of this ministry.  Will you support us in our growth and partner with us as we continue to minister to moms?

When Your Spouse Is Away

When Your Spouse Is Away

Throughout my 30+ year marriage to my husband, he has consistently been away for at least half of every month. So today's Tip on Motherhood feels near and dear to my heart! When Greg was a fighter pilot (talk about a "cool" job) in the Navy, there were times when he...

WT 141: Parenting With A Spouse Who Is Often Away

WT 141: Parenting With A Spouse Who Is Often Away

Being on the same page with your spouse is never simple, and when one spouse is frequently away from home, things get even more complicated. On Wire Talk today, Karen and Sunny answer questions about how to squash resentment, smooth out the re-entry process, and even get dinner on the table when you’re flying solo. 

Boys and Boundaries

Boys and Boundaries

Birds on a Wire is grateful to David Thomas of Daystar Ministries for joining us on episode 140 of Wire Talk. The following blog post was written for us by David. Pick up his highly recommended book Are My Kids On Track? for more on navigating the emotional world of...

WT 140: The Emotional World of Kids with special guest David Thomas

WT 140: The Emotional World of Kids with special guest David Thomas

Maybe your teenage daughter suddenly bursts into tears at the drop of a hat or maybe your 9 year old son is constantly slamming the door over math homework. The variety of emotions our kids express in one afternoon can leave us confused and exhausted. 

David Thomas, one of our most popular break-out speakers at this year’s Soar conference, joins Sunny today to address the questions so many of us have when it comes to our kids’ emotional needs. We cover when to lean in and when to back off, how to discern what is hormones and what is normal behavior and David gives loads of practical tips to help you navigate the outbursts. Whether you’re dealing with anger, sadness, anxiety or frustration, we think you’ll hear something in this episode that equips you to respond with grace. 

Buckle Up! (Surviving the Younger Years)

Buckle Up! (Surviving the Younger Years)

I get emails often from moms of babies and toddlers asking for help just to survive this season. (Almost as many as I get from moms of teenagers !) I always wish I had a better answer for them. It’d be so nice if there were some trick that stopped a two year old’s...

WT 139: Surviving the Chaos of the Toddler Years

WT 139: Surviving the Chaos of the Toddler Years

Meal times, temper tantrums, their constant desire for your undivided attention … it seems we can’t do enough episodes on how to survive  the toddler years! Many of you are asking, how can I survive the chaos and maybe even enjoy a little bit of these fleeting years? Today, Sunny and Karen are addressing your questions and hopefully giving you hope that you CAN do this! 

Setting Boundaries With Family

Setting Boundaries With Family

I love this time of year. I love putting out holiday decorations in my home and all of the little traditions that come along with celebrating the holidays. My granddaughter Evie is old enough to help me out in the kitchen now and it is so fun to share this time with...

WT 138: Can You Help Me Navigate The Grandparents?

WT 138: Can You Help Me Navigate The Grandparents?

Just in time for the holidays! On today’s episode we’re answering your questions on how to handle those awkward, messy, and sometimes frustrating situations that occasionally (okay, maybe often) pop up with the grandparents. Karen and Sunny address boundaries, holiday travel and child care questions. So tune in on that long drive to see your family and we hope you feel ready to engage your family in a healthy way this year. 

WT 137: Teen Mental Health & Suicide Risk Factors with special guest Debbie Causey

WT 137: Teen Mental Health & Suicide Risk Factors with special guest Debbie Causey

Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among students today. As a society we are clearly in crisis, and as mothers, we are fighting on the front line in this battle. Today one of Karen’s best friends, Debbie Causey, joins us to talk about her own journey as the mother of a child with mental health conditions. As a mental health professional, Debbie also shares her wisdom on warning signs we can be looking for and the steps we can take to fight for our children’s lives. 

Even if you have toddlers and this conversation feels light years away, listen for a friend, a family member, or a student you know and love. 

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