Think of your marriage as a 401K program; if you don’t invest along the way, when you get older, you’ll wish you had.  Like a 401K, you don’t have to make big investments, but lots of small deposits over the years add up in a good way.

I know what you are thinking, “I don’t have time for that!”  I’m going to push back and say, “Yes you do! You need to make time!”

Here are my tips on dating your husband:

  • Going on a date that is not a “normal” date is fun. It gets you out of the regular routine of going to dinner and seeing a movie. Choosing a different activity can be a conversation starter itself. For instance: Take a bike ride on your city’s beltway. It’s fun, it’s free, you get exercise, and after the bike ride you will have lots to talk about. (i.e., the scenery, different things you saw on the ride, where to go eat next, how much your butt hurts!)
  • Before your date, write down questions that are conversation starters:
    • What are your goals in 1, 5, 10 years?
    • If you had $20,000 to spend on the house, what would you do and why?
    • If you could buy one thing for me, what would you buy and why?
    • What are you learning in your spiritual walk right now? Are you in a growth stage or are things dry? How can I pray for you?
    • Let’s plan our next big anniversary trip together, where do we want to go?
    • Talk to me about your career. Are you happy? What are your dreams concerning your work?
  • Read the book 5 Love Languages, decide what each other’s love language is, and then start speaking that language. Discover your different personalities and what is important for each other.

Moms, I hope you will go on a date this week with your husband! Get a sitter, and go have some fun. Try not to talk about the kids. Remember you are investing in the future—your future together!

Year End Giving 2017

Year End Giving 2017

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Equipping Our Daughters to Respond to Mean Girls

Equipping Our Daughters to Respond to Mean Girls

Mean girls are a sad fact of life; and if she hasn’t already, your daughter is going to encounter mean girls more than once growing up. Girls start this mean girl act as early as kindergarten, but definitely by 3rd grade you need to have a conversation with your...

WT133: What Do I Do About Mean Girls?

WT133: What Do I Do About Mean Girls?

We may love to quote Lindsay Lohan in Mean Girls, but no one thinks it’s funny when you encounter a mean girl in real life. On Wire Talk today Sunny and Karen answer your questions all about girl drama. From playdate peer pressure to the high school hierarchy, how do you equip your daughter to handle mean girls and the yuck that inevitably comes along with some female relationships? Whether your daughter is 3, 13 or 30, tune in to hear Karen’s thoughts, and be encouraged that you can mother with confidence through these difficult times.

Motivating Your ‘Green’ Child

Motivating Your ‘Green’ Child

Greens can be hard to motivate. The more we as moms try to micromanage them, the more they dig their heels into the ground and their stubborn streak comes out. As my kids were growing up here are a few things that helped me motivate my loveable (and sometimes lazy)...

WT 132: Gaining Understanding of Our Greens

WT 132: Gaining Understanding of Our Greens

Peaceful, easy-going, conflict-avoiders … however you describe them, to a parent who doesn’t understand their motivations, ‘green’ kids can be a mystery. Today Karen and Sunny discuss teaching our greens to take responsibility for themselves when they are younger and how we can help them handle the pressures that come along with high school when they get older. Whether or not you have a green child, we think you’ll learn something new when you tune in. 

Desire Follows Arousal

Desire Follows Arousal

Moms if you haven’t had an opportunity to listen to this week’s episode of Wire Talk - please don’t miss it! Next time you are folding a load of laundry or heading to pick up the kids, take the opportunity to listen in. I think you will be blessed! Dr. Michael Sytsma...

WT 130: How Do I Create A Peaceful Home? [RE-AIR]

WT 130: How Do I Create A Peaceful Home? [RE-AIR]

We often talk about bringing peace to the world, but what about bringing peace to your home? On the last of our month-long series of re-broadcast episodes today, Karen doles out advice on everything from creating a family routine and what do when the kids come to you with the dreaded, “I’m bored!” to how to handle differences between you and your spouse when it come to chores and household maintenance. As always, we hope you take away a nugget of practical advice that helps you maintain the peace in your home this week.

WT 129: How Do I Re-Connect With My Spouse After Kids? [RE-AIR]

WT 129: How Do I Re-Connect With My Spouse After Kids? [RE-AIR]

When children enter the picture, your life changes forever. Your sleep habits change, your diet is changed, your schedule is changed and the amount of laundry you do definitely changes. As your child grows, some of these areas in your life get back to normal, except for your laundry … that continues to build!

The addition of children changes your marriage too. So how do you balance life with children and your spouse? It’s hard to do, and let’s be honest, sometimes our spouses are put on the back burner because we don’t have the energy to put in the “extra” time with them. Tune in to today’s episode to hear Karen answer questions from moms about how to re-connect with their spouse now that kids are in the picture! 

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