Did anyone ever tell you when you were getting married that you were also marrying your husband’s family? I’m sure many of you heard something like that during your engagement, but I think the dynamic changes again when your in-laws become grandparents and your children become a part of the relationship as well. Here are a few things to remember as you navigate your relationship with your mother-in-law:

1. Realize that this is the first time your mother-in-law has been a mother-in-law to you, and she is going to make mistakes, just like you. If it’s her first time as a grandma, know that she is figuring all of this out as well. Don’t expect her to be a pro!

2. Give your MIL grace and the benefit of the doubt. If she is late coming over to watch the kids, assume the best (i.e. traffic must have been bad), don’t assume she doesn’t care about your schedule!

3. Set realistic expectations with your MIL and don’t expect her to watch your children all the time. Rather, be grateful when she does volunteer, even if it’s only once a year! 

4. Set boundaries with your MIL. If she is the type to pop in unannounced, then ask your husband have a conversation with her. It’s perfectly reasonable to ask her to give you some notice before a visit so you can prepare (and be home!) when she shows up. Like I always remind you mommas, boundaries bring peace!  

We had a deep conversation on Wire Talk this past week about mothers-in-law and the complicated relationship that can be. If you’re struggling in that arena right now, have a listen. I hope you’ll take away some practical nugget you can put into practice this month with this relationship.