457: Talking to Kids About Loss: Lessons from Where Did TJ Go?

Grief and joy don’t have to be opposites—sometimes, they go hand in hand. In this tender conversation, Annie F. Downs shares the story behind Where Did TJ Go?, a book she co-authored with her sister to help families navigate the loss of a child. Annie opens up about how her nephew TJ’s brief but impactful life deepened their family’s bond and taught them the beauty of holding joy and sorrow together. Whether you’ve experienced loss yourself or want to support a grieving family, this episode is filled with wisdom, encouragement, and hope.

Episode Recap:

4:26- Annie F. Downs joins us today!

5:40- Prior to TJ’s death, Annie’s family was not nearly as close 

8:00- Annie’s sister discovered she was pregnant with a child who had a life limiting diagnosis 

10:45- Aunts and uncles get to say yes, so do it often! 

12:45- How can we love on families who are raising kids while grieving? 

14:30- Where Did TJ Go?  is a conduit for families to connect while grieving

16:00- There is good news in sad stories, this is a Gospel story

20:50- Get a bookplate customized with the name of a child you want to honor

Scripture for Reflection:

Romans 12:15 (NIV) – "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn."

Questions for Discussion:

Annie talked about how grief and joy can coexist. Have you seen this play out in your own life or in the lives of those around you?

How can we, as moms, create space for our children to express their emotions—both happy and sad—without feeling like they have to choose one over the other?

Annie’s family found a surprising closeness through their loss. Have you experienced a hardship that has brought you closer to family? How did it change your relationships?

What are some ways we can support grieving families, especially those with young children, in a way that honors their loss while also bringing hope?

Resources:

Pick up Where Did TJ Go? anywhere books are sold: https://amzn.to/4kxSYzT

Get a bookplate customized with a name you want to honor at wheredidtjgo.com

Last chance to register for the Soar Conference! Don’t procrastinate another day: https://subsplash.com/birdsonawire-ga/lb/ev/+j2j9wpq

Connect with Annie: https://www.anniefdowns.com/