3 Tips for Connecting with Your Teenage Son

The metamorphosis from boy to man can be hard on a mom’s heart. But if you listened to the podcast this past week, you heard me say that it’s something we need to learn to embrace, because it’s a good and right transition!

Here are 3 tips that I hope will help you make the transition a little smoother on your end:

#1. Give your son the space he needs.

He needs a little distance from you in order to mature. His natural pulling away does not mean that he loves you less or that he necessarily needs you less. But he does need to go through this process. Don’t give into fear that you are losing your close relationship with him.

#2 Figure out some ways to get into his world.

Study his interests and do your best to ride along when you can. I used to walk the golf course alongside Taylor while he played just to get into his world. It could be as simple as watching a movie or sports game with your son or asking him to choose the music in the car. It could be as tedious as listening to him explain his Fortnite strategy!

#3 Use your words.

Giving him your attention when it comes to the things he gets excited about is a surefire way to show him that you are for him. But don’t forget to tell him as well! Tell him often that you love him. Assure him of your unconditional love. Tell him that you believe in him. Tell him what you think he’s good at and how proud you are of him. If he does want to talk, be available to listen. It may not seem like he cares, but your words matter.